How to Support a Friend’s Mental Health When You’re Unsure

Warning: This article deals with the topic of mental health and may be distressing for some readers.

World Suicide Prevention Day is coming up on September 10, and it’s a crucial reminder that mental health is something we should all be paying attention to — not just for ourselves, but for the people we care about too. In Australia, suicide remains a significant issue, with more than 3,000 lives lost to suicide each year. That’s an average of nine people every day.

These stats are heartbreaking, but they also show just how crucial it is to reach out and stay connected with those around us. Sometimes, a small gesture or a simple check-in can make all the difference. Whether you’re the friend who always knows the right thing to say or you’re feeling unsure of how to start, we’ve got some tips on how you can reach out this World Suicide Prevention Day — and every day.

How to Support Your Friends’ Mental Health

Start With a Simple Check-In

Sometimes, the hardest part is knowing how to kick things off. But it doesn’t have to be complicated. A simple, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you—how are you really doing?” can open up a world of conversation. Remember, you don’t have to solve everything. Just letting your friend know you’re there to listen can be a huge relief for them.

We all love a good scroll through social media, but instead of just liking that vacation pic, why not send a quick DM? Whether it’s a “Miss you!” or sharing a funny meme that made you think of them, those little gestures remind your friends that you’re there and that they’re not alone.

Plan a No-Pressure Hangout

Not every check-in needs to be a deep, soul-searching conversation. Sometimes, just hanging out can be the best way to show you care. Whether it’s a walk in the park, grabbing coffee, or even binge-watching a show together, creating a chill space lets your friends know you’re there.

The Right Questions to Ask

When you do get into a conversation, try asking open-ended questions that give your friends room to really express themselves. Instead of the usual “How are you?” (which can sometimes get a quick “I’m fine”), try “What’s been on your mind lately?” or “Is there anything you’ve been dealing with?” These kinds of questions show you genuinely care about what’s going on with them.

Small Gestures Go A Long Way

Who doesn’t love a good surprise? Dropping off a little care package — think cosy blanket, favourite snack, or a hand-written note — can be a sweet way to show you’re thinking of them. It’s a small gesture, but it can mean the world to someone who’s feeling down.

Small Acts of Kindness

Sometimes, it’s the little tasks that feel the most overwhelming when someone’s struggling. Offer to help with something simple, like running an errand, helping them tidy up, or just being there while they tackle their to-do list. These small acts of kindness can really lift a weight off their shoulders.

Just Be There, No Matter What

The most important thing you can do? Just be there. Whether your friend is ready to talk or not, your consistent presence shows they don’t have to go through anything alone. And if you’re worried about saying the wrong thing, don’t stress — they’re not looking for perfect words, just someone who cares.

You Don’t Have to Have All the Answers

Reaching out can feel a bit intimidating, especially if you’re worried about saying the right thing. But here’s the thing — your friend isn’t expecting perfect advice. They just want to know that someone cares. So, this World Suicide Prevention Day, let’s all make a little extra effort to check in on the people we love. Because sometimes, a simple “I’m here for you” can mean everything.

Learn more about World Suicide Prevention Day and discover how you can make a difference here.

If this article brings up any issues for you or anyone you know, or if you or a young person you know is struggling with symptoms of mental illness, please contact Headspace (1800 650 890) or chat online. If you are over the age of 25 and suffering from symptoms of mental illness, please contact your local GP for a Mental Health Assessment Plan or call Lifeline (13 11 14) or Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800), both of which provide trained counsellors you can talk with 24/7.